Why Being A Nuturer Can Deplete You
Do You Take Care of Everybody?
Everybody But You?
The problem with you putting everyone else first is that you're teaching all of them that you come second. As a result, that's exactly how they'll treat you. You will never be a priority. People will expect you to put your own needs aside and tend to theirs instead.
If you're not okay, then you can't give your loved ones your very best. Take care of you first so that you have the energy and motivation to do all the many tasks that are asked of you.
When we constantly give of ourselves and don't get it back in return, we eventually turn sour and start resenting others for demanding so much of us. We start to feel heavy with the sadness that comes with feeling like nobody has our back, that nobody ever puts us first. But here's the thing... IT'S NOT FAIR TO ASK ANYONE TO PUT YOU FIRST.
It's not fair to ask them to put you first just as it's not fair for them to ask you to put them first!
YOU have to put you first. We are all responsible for ourselves, tending to our own needs, and orchestrating our own lives.
It's not selfish to take care of yourself. Since when did this become a thing? Since when did it become okay to ignore all of your own needs and run yourself into the ground trying to be the keeper of all others? It has long become a commonplace expectation that women are to put everybody else first and then and only then are allowed to tend to themselves. This is a ridiculous notion and it has become not only an unrealistic societal standard, but it sets us up for failure…and unhappiness.
It is IMPOSSIBLE to properly care for and tend to your entire tribe when you are depleted. Sooner or later you will collapse, either physically or mentally (but probably both)... and eventually, spiritually too. You must take care of yourself first so that you are equipped to make sure everyone else is tended to.
Fuck the martyr bullshit. You don't need to sacrifice your well being or your sanity in order to be considered a good person.
Think of it this way, when you're on a plane, the most important safety instruction the flight attendant gives you is to put your oxygen mask on before you put your child's mask on. This is because you cannot help your child if you are incapacitated. This same concept pertains to the adults in your life in everyday instances. So please, take care of yourself! Take care of yourself so that you can then take care of others.
You are important and you are worthy of love and consideration. Be nice to yourself. The people in your life need you happy and healthy. And if they don’t treat you the way you want to be treated, show them how.
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